So you've blown it... You had a cookie and now you might as well eat the whole box, right? Or you missed one workout, so you might as well skip a few more days, right? Wrong! You are going to screw up, you are going to blow it, but it's not the end of the world. Get over it and move on. It isn't what you did in the pasts that matters, it's what you're choosing to do now... So get back on track...
So you're making some changes... maybe losing weight, or getting organized or whatever... Instead of just focussing on your goals there, take a look at the heart and character strengths you are developing as well... for they will stand you in good stead long after you've lost those 20 lbs or gotten organized... Maybe it's courage or inner determination or tenacity or self-trust or patience... You'll discover some fire deep within yourself... that you never knew you had...
And somewhere along the way, if you stick with it, you'll find it comes more easily, more automatically... and you've created a new habit... Congratulate yourself!!! Enjoy your success...
So you're doing pretty good... your new habit is nicely ingrained... but then something happens and your routine changes drastically... and suddenly you're stressed and drinking Coke again... or skipping your workout... It happens, we go back to our old habits, because that old pathway is still there in our brain. Get clear on what stresses you out... is it deadlines? Is it too much on your plate? Plan in advance how you'll handle the stress...
And if you do screw up, don't listen to that voice that tells you "you can't do it", "you might as well give up"... M.J. Ryan recommends assessing the current situation, adjusting what needs to be done, admiring yourself for having the strength to start again and acting quickly to implement your new course of action (the 4 A's)...
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