Standing in my Power or Trying to Please Another

3. Am I standing in my power OR am I trying to please another?

Can I honour myself, stand in my own power, even though it means going against popular opinion? Or give away my power trying to please someone else... Living from my power, standing in my power, means honouring myself, living a life of integrity, following my soul's desires (not someone elses'... MINE!). It means being alligned with our highest self and trusting ourselves enough to follow our hearts... even if it disappoints someone else...

When we are disconnected from our integrity, we feel timid and intimidated... Whenever we try to please another and forsake our own truth for theirs, we relinquish some of our power. And when we're not being true to our personal integrity, we disconnect ourselves from our innate intelligence and our intuitive wisdom... That inner voice that tells us things aren't quite right...

In order to stand fully in our power, we have to become comfortable with confrontation... Pleasing others is a habit we developed when we were young, but it doesn't serve us as adults! We give away our power for the approval of others... we damage ourselves... and creating a heck of a lot of resentment, often towards the very people we are trying to please... Resentment is a great indicator that you're giving up your power... or have given up your power... And guess what... choosing what is best for yourself is not necessarily "selfish"! Any time we forsake our own needs for the needs of another, we are damaging our relationship with that person... and ourselves...

And pleasing another is not the same as caring for another... But the truth is, we can't care for another if we don't care for ourselves first...

That's the synopsis of this chapter... wowsa... this is a great one for me... I've lived so much of my life trying to please others... wondering what others will think and trying to live up to their image of me... or what they think I should be... or what I think they think I should be... or something. Quite crazy really. So the litmus test for me is if I agree to do something or be something... is there resentment that develops... If there is, it's a pretty good indicator that I'm trying to please someone else and giving up my power. I'm not always sure how to stand in my power but stand in it I must!!