Remind me of the Right Questions!

Clearly I need to review the Right Questions often!!! Today, I had many opportunities to use the right questions, and make the right choices and I didn't. I chose to do things that weren't always in line with my own highest interests, but chose things that would please others or make their life easier. So, for me there is this struggle. Am I doing something because it will be "good" for me... or because it will make someone else happy. So, once again, I am reminded that it is for me to make the choice... to stand up for myself and to choose what will fulfill me and move me forward. Hard to do sometimes... Hard to say "no" for me... Much easier in the moment to go with the flow... and yet afterwards I am kicking myself and feeling like crap. And it seems that it is becoming more connected... more noticeable. So the more disconnected I am from myself, the more connected I am to that disconnect! I can't hide from the unfulfilling aspects of my poor choices... they are coming out more and more strongly... Almost like I am developing a more balanced polarity of the fulfilling and the unfulfilling... I think many of us live our lives in that middle zone... where there isn't too much happening, no wild extremes... no great "ah-hah, eureka" moments, but not a lot of "in the depths of despair" moments either... We just go through life, pretending that we can have things run off of our backs like water off of a duck... We say "whatever" and pretend that we are moving on... But are we really? Or are we stuck in the doldrums of the middle... where not much happens...